Choosing readings for your Marriage ceremony can be tricky – You want something meaningful, but not too cheesy, something that’s personal, but not too cliché.
For Romantic Blessings ceremonies, as there is no legal restriction placed on these, there is room for lots of flexibility on how you’d like to set the tone of your ceremony. You can include readings, poems, stories, or songs, as well as an array of traditions and ideas from your Minister – The Spanish “Arras” is always a favourite here. A blessing ceremony can be completely personal to you, and you can involve guests, relatives and children who will all make it a special and memorable occassion.
Here, we’ve narrowed it down to 5 of our favourite readings/poems:
“If two are caring as they are sharing life’s hopes and fears;
If music or laughter outweighs sadness and tears;
Marriage is togetherness.
If both derive pleasure from the mere presence of each other;
Yet when parted no jealousies restrict, worry or smother;
Marriage is freedom.
If achievements mean more when they benefit two;
And consideration is shown with each point of view;
Marriage is respect.
And if togetherness, freedom and respect are combined with a joy
that words can never fully define,
Then marriage is love.”
“If you have found a smile That is the sweetest one you’ve known, If you have heard, within a voice, The echoes of your own, If you have felt a touch That stirs the longings of your heart, And still can feel that closeness In the moments you’re apart, If you are filled with wonder At the way two lives can blend To weave a perfect pattern That is seamless, end to end, If you believe some things in life Are simply meant to be, Then you have found your soulmate Your heart’s own destiny.”
“If you can always be as close and happy as today Yet be secure enoughto grow and change along the way If you can keep for you alone, you love as man and wife Yet find the time to share your joy with others in your life If you can be as one, and walk through marriage hand in hand Yet still support the goals and dreams that each of you have planned. If you can dare to always go your separate ways together Then all the wonder of today will stay with you forever.”
“Marriage is about giving and taking And forging and forsaking Kissing and loving and pushing and shoving Caring and sharing and screaming and swearing About being together whatever the weather And being driven to the end of your tether About sweetness and kindness And wisdom and blindness. It’s about being strong when you’re feeling quite weak It’s about saying nothing when you’re dying to speak It’s about being wrong when you know you are right It’s about giving in, before there’s a fight It’s about you two living as cheaply as one (you can give us a call if you know how that’s done!) Never heeding advice that was always well meant Never counting the cost until it’s all spent And for you two today it’s about to begin And for all that the two of you had to put in Some days filled with joy, and some days with sadness Too late you’ll discover that marriage is madness.”
“Today is the day you will always remember, The greatest in anyone’s life. You’ll start off the day just two people in love, And end it as husband and wife. It’s a brand new beginning, the start of a journey, With moments to cherish and treasure. And although there’ll be times when you both disagree, These will surely be outweighed by pleasure. You’ll have heard many words of advice in the past, When secrets of marriage were spoken. But you know that the answers lie hidden inside, Where the bond of true love lies unbroken. So live happily forever as lovers and friends, ‘Tis the dawn of a new life for you. As you stand there together with love in your eyes, From the moment you whisper “I do”.”
If you are getting married in Church, then your readings during the ceremony will need to be religious of course, and a list of suggested options will be sent to your by your planner at the time of booking. In Church there are of course more rules to stick to than in a romantic blessing, but there are still ways to personalise the ceremony to you. Here are some suggestions:
- Readings can be made in your own language rather than that of the ceremony (e.g. If your ceremony is in English, you can have your readings in Irish or if your Wedding is in Spain and you’d like to tie in a Spanish feel, then maybe havethe Gospel read in Spanish?).
- Personalize your Prayers of the Faithful. Although sample prayers are included in your template, add in the names of those departed, special relatives that are unable to make your Wedding day.
- Include different readers for each of the readings and prayers – Children can also read the prayers.
- Adding in a poem of thank you to your guests at the end of your mass booklet.